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Live Life Fully 云想衣裳花想容,春风拂槛露华浓Life is not an individual sport. To live life fully, you must participate. Often this involves interacting with other people. This is an exercise in confidence. |
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Comfort Zone Over time, we all gather a set of constricting habits around us. Ones that trap us in a zone of supposed comfort, well below what our potential would allow us to attain. Pretty soon, such habit slip below the level of our consciousness, but they still determine what we think that we can and cannot do. And what we cannot even bring ourselves to try. As long as you let these habits rule you, you are pretty much stuck.
Day to day life or work are full of routines. It is easy to build up ways to deal with things that one's comfortable with. Soon the habits get created, and the boundaries of the comfort zone get formed. The beauty of such is that the set of behaviors become comfortable, without creating a sense of risk. The safety and security, however, will morph into boredom and stasis.
Life is all about experience and experiment. Nobody's born with instruction or manual for life. Despite all the advice from parents, teachers and elders, each of use make our own way in the world, doing the best we can and quite often getting things wrong. When in different time or situation , advice might or might not work. And not to mention different person can execute the same guide lines in different ways. Messing up a few times isn't a big deal. But if one gets scared and try to avoid all mistakes by sticking with just a few tried and true behaviors, he will sure miss out on most opportunities. Lots of people who suffer from boredom at work or life are doing it to themsselves. They are bored and frustrated because that's what their choices have caused them to be. They are stuckin ruts they've dug for themselves while trying to avoid making mistakes and taking risks. People who never make mistakes never make anything else either. It's wise to admit the mistakes and learn from it and move on.
The real monster is not the difficulties that one confronts, but the fear of facing the unknown. If you stay inside the cage, you are safe. The real question becomes: will you let the monster and scary beasts keep you inside or step over them and go into the wider world of your unused potential? Some people routinely step out of their comfort zone, to accomplish what they want. They take reasonable risks, experiment new and different behaviors, experience different responses, and they are the ones who will most likely to be successful. I remember during an MSN all hands meeting, one of the managers quoted, 'Only those who will risk going too far can possibly find out how far they can go.' Three Knights - Teasing your brainA man is sentenced to death but the king wants to give him a last chance. He asks the man to choose from one of the three knights that are there. One of the knights is the Knight of Life, and he always tells the truth. The second Knight is the Knight of Death, and he always tells lies. The third knight is the Knight of the Dungeon. He sometimes lies and sometimes tells the truth. If the man chooses the Knight of Death, he is to be executed before sunset. If he chooses the Knight of Life, he would be acquitted and set free right away. If he chooses the Knight of the Dungeon, he would spend the rest of his life imprisoned in the Dungeon. The man is allowed to ask the three knights one question each.
Thus, he asks the fat knight, "What is the name of this tall knight?" The reply was "He is the Knight of the Life."
He asked the small knight, "What is the name of this tall knight?" The reply was "He is the Knight of Death."
Then he asked the tall knight "Who are you?" "I am the Knight of the Dungeon" was the reply.
After that, the man was able to correctly choose the Knight of Life, and was set free immediately.
Who is the Knight of Life, and who are the other two knights? Scroll down if you want to know Jen's logic.
At least one of the three should be telling the truth. Let's first assume, it's the fat knight. If he's telling the truth, then the tall knight must be Knight of Life, who only tells truth. And obviously he is not. So fat knight is lying. Second, assume the small knight is telling the truth, and there's no confilcts on all three statements. Third, let's verify the answer by assuming again the tall knight is telling the truth. Then he's the Knight of Dungeon. If this is the case, the other two are all lying. So the answer is: For My Independent GirlfriendsWhen I stand up for myself and my beliefs, they call me a bitch. When I stand up for those I love, they call me a bitch. When I speak my mind, think my own thoughts or do things my own way, they call me a bitch. Being a bitch means I won't compromise what's in my heart. It means I live my life MY way. It means I won't allow anyone to step on me. When I refuse to tolerate injustice and speak against it, I am defined as a bitch. The same thing happens when I take time for myself instead of being everyone's maid, or when I act a little selfish. It means I have the courage and strength to allow myself to be who I truly am and won't become anyone else's idea of what they think I "should" be. I am outspoken, opinionated and determined. I want what I want and there is nothing wrong with that! So try to stomp on me, try to douse my inner flame, try to squash every ounce of beauty I hold within me. You won't succeed. And if that makes me a bitch, so be it. I embrace the title and am proud to bear it. B - Babe I - In T - Total C - Control of H - Herself B = Beautiful I = Intelligent T = Talented C = Charming H = Hell of a Woman B - Beautiful I - Individual T - That C - Can H - Handle anything "If you can't do something right, get a woman to do it." Feuerbach once said thatMarriage - we mean, of course, marriage as the free bond of love - is sacred in itself, by the very nature of the union which is therein effected.
FOOTNOTE: Yes, only as the free bond of love; for a marraige the bond of which is merely an external restriction, not the voluntary, contented self-restriction of love, in short, a marriage which is not spontaneously concluded, spontaneously willed, self-sufficing, is not a true marriage, and therefore not a truly moral marriage.
The bottom line is that you don't marry someone you can live with - you marry the person who you can't live without. Life as A JourneyThe ancient Greek philosophy master Socrates’ three disciples once sought for advice, how could one find the ideal companion? Socrates didn’t reply directly, instead asked them to walk on the wheat field. The rule was one could only move forward, and only had one opportunity to pick a best biggest wheat. The first disciple walked several step saw a greatly attractive wheat, happily took off. But when he continued moving on, he discovered bigger and better wheat compared to his. He regrettably walked the entire journey. The second disciple had drawn the lesson. When he saw big one he must pick, always reminded himself there would be better one down the road. Only at the end did he realize that he had missed all the opportunities. The third disciple has drawn the first two lessons. When he walked one third of the field, he divided the wheat he saw into 3 categories: big, medium, and small. He kept moving on, at the 2nd third of the field, he confirmed what he had divided was correct. And finally at the last part of the trip, he picked the one that’s the best in the big category. Although, this might not necessarily be the most greatly most beautiful, he walked the entire journey with satisfaction. Life is a journey - one that's much better travelled with a companion by our side. Still despite our best intentions, some travel happily with their companion, some will lose companion on the way, and some just travel alone. It is hard to find the right one. However, human being are designed for many things but loneliness isn't one of them. The Beauty of a WomanAudrey Hepburn once got asked to share her beauty tips, and here's what she responded: For attractive lips, speak words of kindness. The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman must be seen from in her eyes, because that is the door way to her heart, the place where love resides. The beauty of a woman is not in a facial mode, but the true beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It is caring that she lovingly gives, the passion that she shows. The beauty of a woman grows with the passing years. Bourgeoisie complexWhen fashion becomes trend, its tenure will be immediately terminated from my closet. When the majority of people go with prevailing wisdom, I would deliberately decide to go against. Call me a fighter.Beneath the surface, the ambition of being extraordinary has been grown and flooded every single cell in my body. I believe that 'ordinary, dull' isn't equal to 'hopelessly apathetic'. To me, a so-called 'elementary complex' person is the one whose arm hangs a LV purse, nose surmounted by a pair of Prada sunglasses, or body is wrapped by a Burberry coat. It is a 'way of life', an 'attitude for life'. But if one doesn't understand the essence of fashion and sophistication, the collection of these brands becomes accumulation, and will never reach a level of stylish. Of course, without a certain level of material treat, some won't name it quality life. The break down is that some are obsessed by it. Sure, here is nothing wrong that your pursuit for a quality of life is enriched by material sufficiency, with a condition - your pocket doesn't signal an emergency while you are ruining with the flow and you bring life to that piece. My petty bourgeoisie complex, with my special understanding, should be the heart of my health the territory of my mind. It comes naturally without meticulous imitation. And it combines with materialism to fulfill my dream - a mater rather than a slave of life. 男人和女人的友谊 (Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus)We mistakenly assum that if our partners love us they will react and behave in cetain ways - the ways we react and behave when we love someone. 男人和女人的友情照理说对于友情这样的话题，男人女人的看法和感受本没有什么太大的差异，可一经落实到行动上，你还别不信，真的就不同，邪门了？。？ 女人真正想要的是什么？(What do women really want?)Young King Arthur was ambushed and imprisoned by the monarch of a neighboring kingdom. The monarch could have killed him, but was moved by Arthur's youthful happiness. So he offered him freedom, as long as he could answer a very difficult question. Arthur would have a year to figure out the answer. If, after a year, he still had no answer, he would be killed. What most people did tell him was to consult the old witch, as only she would know the answer. The price would be high, since the witch was famous throughout the kingdom for the exorbitant prices she charged. The last day of the year arrived and Arthur had no alternative but to talk to the witch. She agreed to answer his question, but he'd have to accept her price first. The old witch wanted to marry Gawain, the most noble of the Knights of the Round Table and Arthur's closest friend! Young Arthur was horrified: she was hunchbacked and awfully hideous, had only one tooth, smelled like sewage water, often made obscene noises... He had never run across such a repugnant creature. Noble Gawain replied that he would let her choose for herself. Upon hearing this, she announced that she would be beautiful all the time, because he had respected her and had let her be in charge of her own life. Since birth, modern women have been told that we can do and be anything we want. Be an astronaut, the head of an internet company, a stay-at-home mom. There aren't any rules anymore, and the choices are endless. And apparently they can all be delivered right to our door. But is it possible that we've gotten so spoiled by choices taht we've become uable to make one? Shakespeare said 'To be, or not to be, that's the question'. That really leaves the choice to ourselves. And as woman, when you put your fate and future in other's hand, it all depends on how well that person will take care of it. 年轻的亚瑟国王被邻国的伏兵抓获。邻国的君主被亚瑟的年轻和乐观所打动，没有杀他。并承诺只要亚瑟可以回答一个非常难的问题，他就可以给亚瑟自由。亚瑟有一年的时间来思考这个问题。如果一年的时间还不能给他答案，亚瑟就会被处死。
职场人必看的12个寓言故事(Things You Won't Learn from MBA Classes)1. A crow was sitting on a tree, doing nothing all day. A small rabbit saw the crow, and asked him, "Can I also sit like you and do nothing all day long?"
The crow answered: "Sure, why not." So, the rabbit sat on the ground below the crow, and rested. All of a sudden, a fox appeared, jumped on the rabbit and ate it. < Moral of the story > To be sitting and doing nothing, you must be sitting very, very high up. 2. A turkey was chatting with a bull. "I would love to be able to get to the top of that tree," sighed the turkey, "but I haven't got the energy." 3. A little bird was flying south for the winter. It was so cold, the bird froze and fell to the ground in a large field. While it was lying there, a cow came by and dropped some dung on it. As the frozen bird lay there in the pile of cow dung, it began to realize how warm it was. 4. When the body was first made, all the parts wanted to be Boss.
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